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agirlneedsgoals:

bisexualpiratequeen:

thepastryalchemist:

chocolate-dandy:

bisexualpiratequeen:

'lesbian or at least bisexual'

'at least bisexual'

maybe I’m being oversensitive, but I actually have a problem with this phrasing. Having trouble parsing why. Could bi tumblr help me?

It suggests…

I have no idea what the actual context on the op’s post was, but I have used this phrase before and what I meant, usually in a conversation about someone’s sexuality that we didn’t know very well, is that she liked girls. I wasn’t sure if she liked boys, or if she liked BOTH, but for all I knew, she could be girls-only.

That may have been what was meant, but it isn;t what comes across. By saying ‘at least’ you imply (deliberately or not) that bisexuality is the lesser thing, the introductory level queerness, that lesbian is better than bi. This is understandably a sensitive spot for a group that is erased in both straight and LG societies.

Instead of ‘at least’ (which I habitually use for the bare minimum I’ll accept in a situation, btw), just use possibly! ‘She’s possibly bisexual or a lesbian’ says exactly the same things (she may like multiple genders or exclusively girls) without accidentally implying an entire orientation is a lesser subset of another.

siriuus:

do action movies know they can have more than one female character

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

themetaisawesome:

wonderhawk:

Never in a million years

I don’t even watch the show and I know these two are fucking

#NOT ON MY WATCH

OH MY GOD IT’S TOTALLY WHAT SHE’S THINKING HERE THOUGH :D

Seriously

There’s no other way to read that expression of hers here ;D

twirlingavengers:

do you ever just sit around and think I’m in my twenties.

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No

I sit around and think ‘im two years off thirty’

team-machine:

There’s a lot of things I’m displeased and hate about myself, being bisexual is not one of those things.

Same here. Thought I would prefer if we both disliked a lot less about ourselves.

spectremassani:

bisexualpiratequeen:

chocolate-dandy:

bisexualpiratequeen:

'lesbian or at least bisexual'

'at least bisexual'

maybe I’m being oversensitive, but I actually have a problem with this phrasing. Having trouble parsing why. Could bi tumblr help me?

It suggests that bisexuality is your second choice

"I’ll have a coke"
"Is Pepsi ok?"

That’s true. ANd another reason it probably bothers me.

Words matter! And I feel that a simple change from ‘they could be a lesbian or possibly bisexual’ or even just ;they could be gay or bi’ with no clarifying statements in there would be a nice thing to do. Obviously, not life-shatteringly important, but would make it seem less like bisexuality is an also-ran.

"Obviously, not life-shatteringly important, but would make it seem less like bisexuality is an also-ran."

I’d go one further and say making sure non-monosexuality is considered equal to monosexual queer orientations is life-shatteringly important. Because non-monosexuals take enough shit and the only way to change the view that non-mono sexuality isn’t dirty, or greedy, or somehow less than.

True. I am very sued to degrading my own feelings and opinions and assuming that what I care about doesn’t matter, so this may be another of these cases.

But, as a person with mental disorders taht cause me to overreact to minor things, I also struggle to tell the difference to ‘this is actually a big deal’ and ‘I’m spiralling over fucking toast’.

inkiebird:

bisexualpiratequeen:

'lesbian or at least bisexual'

'at least bisexual'

maybe I’m being oversensitive, but I actually have a problem with this phrasing. Having trouble parsing why. Could bi tumblr help me?

it implies bisexual is less than lesbian. It, to me, brings up the whole “bi is half gay, half straight” thing.

This is exactly it.

thepastryalchemist:

chocolate-dandy:

bisexualpiratequeen:

'lesbian or at least bisexual'

'at least bisexual'

maybe I’m being oversensitive, but I actually have a problem with this phrasing. Having trouble parsing why. Could bi tumblr help me?

It suggests that bisexuality is your second choice

"I’ll have a coke"
"Is Pepsi ok?"

And that bisexuality is the minimal standard of queerness.

Like, bi people are let into the queer tent grudgingly, with a sneer because we’re not really queer

You are ABSOLUTELY right.

When I use ‘at least’ on something it is to indicate that the thing is the bare minimum of what I’ll accept - ‘at least it isn;t raining’. ‘We could be happy, or at least content’. It literally includes the word ‘least’.

To clarify, this is about a specific circumsatnce and I don’t think the person using it means this, but it still bugs me.

chocolate-dandy:

bisexualpiratequeen:

'lesbian or at least bisexual'

'at least bisexual'

maybe I’m being oversensitive, but I actually have a problem with this phrasing. Having trouble parsing why. Could bi tumblr help me?

It suggests that bisexuality is your second choice

"I’ll have a coke"
"Is Pepsi ok?"

That’s true. ANd another reason it probably bothers me.

Words matter! And I feel that a simple change from ‘they could be a lesbian or possibly bisexual’ or even just ;they could be gay or bi’ with no clarifying statements in there would be a nice thing to do. Obviously, not life-shatteringly important, but would make it seem less like bisexuality is an also-ran.

disneyprincesssnarks:

bisexualpiratequeen:

'lesbian or at least bisexual'

'at least bisexual'

maybe I’m being oversensitive, but I actually have a problem with this phrasing. Having trouble parsing why. Could bi tumblr help me?

"lesbian, or at least willing to be a lesbian part of the time" perhaps?

I think it MIGHT be because it accidentally imnplies that bisexuality is a subset of lesbianism/being gay rather than it’s own, specific, unique sexualiuty.

And the thing is, I get why most people think that way - I did for a long time, and I am BI. But it isn’t the case. Bi is not being partially gay.