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"Researchers at the University of Western Australia decided to revamp the way they studied Viking remains. Previously, researchers had misidentified skeletons as male simply because they were buried with their swords and shields. (Female remains were identified by their oval brooches, and not much else.) By studying osteological signs of gender within the bones themselves, researchers discovered that approximately half of the remains were actually female warriors, given a proper burial with their weapons.”

Women have always fought. We have always been there, ‘contributing to history’. Our own, modern sexism contributes to the erasure of it.

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overlypolitebisexual:

why do straight girls who know you’re not try to kiss you for a laugh at parties like fuck off it’s a joke to you but we both know you’ll accuse me of enjoying it and having a crush on you i am not some kind of pet you can experiment on

tarntino:

james franco gets busted for soliciting sex from an underage girl. media: franco made a mistake, and has apologized. he hopes to move past this incident and focus entirely on his career from now on.

jennifer lawrence’s nude photos are stollen from her phone. media: when will these actresses learn to control themselves?? this scandal has surely damaged what remains of her career!

i’m still angry at my husband because he went for the off-brand ‘jam and cream sandwich biscuits’ instead of Jammy Dodgers to save 4p.

I hop he enjoys that 4p.

bisexual-books:

harmonyinkpress:

thelolipopme:

thedancingwriter:

harmonyinkpress:

motodrachen:

harmonyinkpress:

We’re seeking submissions of Young Adult stories with bisexual main characters! We’re looking for main characters ages 14-18 who experience positive character growth though the story.

Please see the information in the poster above or check our our submission guidelines.

See a more complete list of what we’re looking for at the original post. And please, give us feedback if there’s something you’d like to see that we’ve left out.

Or, Here’s an idea!  

Instead of making the character’s sexuality the centerpiece, Go pick up a book and read it.

A character’s sexuality isn’t specified, important to the story, or mentioned?  They’re Bisexual.  Or Asexual.  Or Gay.  Or undecided.  There, that wasn’t Hard.

I get so tired of the LGBT community putting so much emphasis on Orientation that they drown the fact that these are People, As if gender preference in a sexual partner was the only possible thing that can define you as a person.  

Most of the people I associate with don’t know my orientation because I keep it on a need to know basis.  I also don’t tell them that I prefer lead based solder over lead free, a preference that has an important impact on my everyday life.  Or that I prefer a minivan to every other form of automobile.  Or that I prefer being Nude at home if at all possible.  

Turning a Preference into a ‘Lifestyle’ is what turns People into Stereotypes.  Doesn’t matter if it’s sexuality, music, media, or consumer goods.  When you make ‘What I like to Do’ into ‘Who I Am’, you’re part of the Problem. 

Representation matters.

Maybe not to you personally, but it does to me. To a lot of people who identify on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. To a lot of People of Color. To a lot of people with disabilities. To a lot of people who don’t get a lot of opportunities to see themselves in the media they consume.

Media forms our ideas about what’s beautiful and what’s not. What’s acceptable and what’s not. What’s broken and what’s not. It’s important for people to be able to see themselves in media. It’s important for marginalized groups to be seen in media.

A lot of people who are questioning their sexual/romantic orientation or gender identity use media representation to help figure out how they actually feel. Without books, movies, and television shows showing LGBTQ+ people, they lose that resource.

I don’t know for certain how different my life would have been if I’d seen or read about more asexual characters growing up, but I know it would have changed. I probably wouldn’t have been in my 30s when I figured out I was asexual. I probably wouldn’t have spent part of my later teenage years wondering what was wrong with me.

And if there were more asexual representation in media, I might not encounter so many people who still think there’s something wrong with me. Because that’s the other side of it. Representation not only validates the people being represented, but it affects the opinions of everyone else who consumes the media as well.

And that’s why we can’t pretend a character is gay or bisexual or asexual or questioning or transgender or whatever else they want to see represented, because it’s not the same thing. The benefits that come from actual representation don’t exist if we’re just pretending or arbitrarily assigning a sexual/romantic orientation or gender identity to a character who doesn’t have it assigned in text.

Even if the benefits were the same, pretending just doesn’t work, unless we’re supposed to pretend that minor background characters identify as LGBTQ+. Most main characters talk about their love interests, and while that may leave room to pretend a character is bisexual or pansexual or even an alloromantic asexual, it does eliminate the possibility of them exclusively experiencing same-gender attraction. A lot of main characters in media are shown having sex and experiencing sexual attraction, which means we can’t pretend they’re asexual. Most of them are comfortable with the names and pronouns they were assigned at birth and don’t talk about any body issues beyond weight and pimples, so it’s difficult to pretend they’re trans or agender or non-binary or genderqueer.

And even if there is a main character that doesn’t have any of those issues, when we say publicly that we feel they identify on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, the rest of the world disagrees with us and tells us that they have to be straight and cis because otherwise it would have been mentioned.

So yes, it actually is hard.

And, by the way, nothing in this call for submission says that being bisexual has to be the defining characteristic of the main character. It has to be a characteristic of the main character. We want books with characters who read like real people who happen to identify on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. And the book doesn’t have to revolve around them identifying that way either. We want fantasies and mysteries and science fiction and historicals and romances. We want teenagers who go on amazing journeys and teenagers who deal with real life problems. We want characters who are out and proud and characters who are in the closet and characters who are still figuring out who they are. We want characters who are jocks or cosplayers or who love math or science or literature or all of the above. We want characters who do well in school and who don’t and who don’t go at all for whatever reason. We want characters from big families and small families and no family and who find a family.

We want them to be real, not defined by their sexual/romantic orientation or gender identity.

But through all of that, we want the fact that they identify on the LGBTQ+ spectrum to be clear. Because you know what? If they didn’t identify as LGBTQ+, there’s a really good chance that fact would be made clear, and we deserve nothing less.

Yes, I wholeheartedly agree! I am writing a character who is asexual, and I have him explicitly mention that he is. I even have him mention some of the issues he’s had identifying as asexual, but it is not the sole centerpiece of the book.

It’s easy to see heterosexuality in books, especially if the sexual attraction to the opposite sex is obvious. Maybe you’re talking about treating it as no big deal, like this guy just happens to be dating a guy and it’s no big deal, but in our society, it still is a big deal. People are still ignorant, prejudiced, and hateful against anything that is not heteronormative. Not to mention we WANT more representation, and so of course we want to be able to talk about our orientations so people can understand.

I see a lot of headcanons going around on Tumblr that mention the possibility of such and such character being asexual, but there is never an explicit mention of it, and I WANT an explicit mention. I don’t want asexuality to be the sole defining factor, but I also don’t want to have to analyze a character to see if he or she is asexual.

People have mentioned the possibility of Katniss Everdeen being asexual, but it’s never even explicitly stated in the book. Only people who know about asexuality would try to analyze this, but people who don’t, who think it’s strange, who don’t think it exists, are just going to assume she’s heterosexual.

So, for me, I want asexuality to be explicitly stated so that those reading books like this can understand asexuality and what it means for that character to be asexual—without it being the sole defining factor, of course.

*Not spoiler* My MC in this most recent book I’m drafting is struggling trying to accept that his boyfriend is dead and has been dead for a year, but he also mentions that his asexuality has caused a few problems along the way in his relationship, especially when he began identifying as asexual in middle school. But he occasionally mentions this throughout the book as it relates to a certain situation he’s in. Otherwise, the entire book revolves around survival and escape, not him struggling to accept his asexuality, because he already accepts it. 

okay, woah. So your saying that the only defining factor people can have is their sexuality? I understand that thats is part of you, but think of it this way. Everyone is a puzzle, and each aspect of their life is just on piece. So your saying that that one piece of your life is all that matters? I understand expressing it, but the way I see it, LGBTs HATE it when people like westbro baptist church say “your sinfull lifesyle will send you to hell.” But when we say that it isn’t a lifestyle, its part of who you are, you freak out.

No one is saying that the only defining factor people can have is their sexuality. We’re saying it’s a defining factor, and one we don’t see represented enough.

I’m a girl, a geek, a cosplayer, a writer, a daughter, a sister, a wine enthusiast, an archer, a cat owner, a friend, a businesswoman, an asexual. There’s only one thing on that list that I don’t see represented in fiction. That’s what we’re trying to change. It’s not about having characters who are defined by their sexuality. It’s about having characters whose sexuality is part of who they are and who identify the same way we do.

And, implying that it’s just sexuality completely ignores the people who identify as LGBTQ+ because of their gender identity rather than their sexual or romantic orientation.

Ugh, so annoyed when people act like wanting queer characters means you are reducing those characters to their sexuality. Like admitting that sexuality is a defining trait somehow means that it is a character’s only personality trait.

Surprise! You can have a character who is both well developed and well rounded! They are not mutually exclusive traits.

Thank goodness we have publishers like Harmony Ink who are actively trying to give us both.

~ Ellie

isfallout4outyet:

Day 688: Fallout 4 still isn’t out yet.

theyellowbrickroad:

money doesnt buy happiness but i cant say id be upset in the least bit if i suddenly inherited 5 million dollars

we’re on the last season of Andromeda.

Wasted potential, everywhere.

Actively wanting Dylan Hunt to die.

gaywrites:

The World Health Organization is considering a change that could help millions of people who are wrongfully told that they’re sick, simply because they are lesbian, gay or bisexual.

The WHO oversees the International Classification of Diseases, the most widely used diagnostic reference book in modern medicine, even more so than the DSM. Now, a WHO panel has recommended that a code describing five “homosexuality-related psychological disorders” be removed from the book.

The disorders include sexual maturation, which according to Science is “when uncertainty about sexual orientation makes a person depressed or anxious.” UCLA epidemiologist Susan Cochran told Underwood that this classification is rooted in Freudian theory and views “homosexuality” as merely an “immature” state of sexual development,  rather than it’s own orientation. But under the classification, a lesbian teenager could find herself labeled mentally ill, merely because she is “grappling with conflicting or confusing sexual desires.”

Cochran led the WHO panel that looked over decades of epidemiological and psychological studies on sexual orientation and mental health. Their report summary: “It is not justifiable from a clinical, public health or research perspective for a diagnostic classification to be based on sexual orientation.”

The group recommended that all sexual orientation classifications be eliminated from the ICD both because they “lack scientific basis or clinical utility,” but also because, as Cochran told Science, it’s a  ”human rights issue.”

The suggestion still faces several rounds of review and a vote by ministers of health from more than 170 countries. Other officials have noted that while they expect huge pushback from countries where homosexuality is still a crime, the harsh conditions faced by LGBT people in those countries proves that now’s the time to take this statement off the books for good. 

donaldsterlingsshriveledpenis:

If you think eating healthy is cheap you either live with your parents or have never actually been to a grocery store